This happened to a friend of ours recently. He’s a college professor and was asked to share his insight as a keynote speaker on a topic he loves. The university called him on his way home to tell him he’d been selected from a pool of candidates to speak at this well-attended, scholarly event. Cal was so thrilled he immediately started making plans in his head, and almost didn’t hear them add “and you’ll receive an honorarium of $2500.”
Blocks from home, he couldn’t wait to tell his wife. Finally, all those years of tireless research were paying off! He tossed his keys on the table and hollered for his wife, “Honey, they’ve offered me $2500 to speak at that big event I was telling you about. $2500!! Let’s take a trip somewhere fun!”
Cal’s wife is a Saver/Security Seeker. She hollered down from their bedroom, “What?! I thought we agreed we weren’t going anywhere this year. What about all our debt? I thought we were paying that down, not going on trips!”
Cal told us how disrespected and unappreciated he felt. It seemed as if his wife had heard that giddy tone from him before, so she didn’t even really listen to what he said. She thought, “Here we go again” and impulsively responded with her fear about spending money.
People often marry their money opposite, but it’s not a terrible thing. In new relationships, we’re attracted to the way they shower us with gifts, or make the future seem so secure with their intentional savings. But truly, marrying our money opposite can be a HUGE asset, adding critical balance to each person’s spending habits. Cal’s wife did a fantastic job over the years, making a professor’s meager salary skillfully cover the entire family’s expenses, while Cal’s Money Personality urged them to create fabulous memories they both now treasure.
How could they have changed this new memory from trash to treasure?
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Scott & Bethany Palmer
The Money Couple®
Creators of The 5 Money Personalities™