Recently, Jerry lost his job. Shortly after that, his wife, Suzie, lost hers. Their bills were piling up. Their home was about to be foreclosed. Tragedy struck big time.
Call it a crisis or tragedy – it will happen. It’s not a matter of “if” but “when.” How do you work through the unexpected tragedy so you will stay together?
You can survive a financial tragedy together. Here’s how:
1. Embrace it
Don’t stick your head in the sand. It won’t go away. If you don’t face your tragedy head on, resentment will build. Bethany is a stage 3 breast cancer survivor and we had $125,000 in medical bills. As much as we wanted to, there was no where to run and hide. We had to embrace it or it would have paralyzed our relationship!
2. Transparency to a point
It’s okay to talk about your fears and feelings but DON’T talk about them ALL the time. Usually one person in the relationship wants to do this – we are talking to you :-). Agree on the best time to talk about it. Morning? Night? What is best for you? Establishing this framework allows the person in your relationship that wants to talk about it all the time the security that it will be discussed as well as assuring the person who doesn’t want to talk about it that the subject won’t come up every day, ALL the time.
3. Tis’ the season
Our grandparents and parents were married more than 50 years. You know they had financial tragedy seasons!! Remember, the financial tragedy you are going through is just that – a SEASON. Couples that struggle together, stay together. Remember it is only a season and you WILL get through it!
One final suggestion
List all four of the Money Personalities in your relationship. Then write down how each Money Personality is perceiving this tragedy. It’s a great way to look at the different perspectives of the situation and talk through how this tragedy is affecting each of you.
Protect your relationship during this challenging time. The tragedy is bad enough; don’t hurt your relationship too. Be sure to pick up a copy of The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking The Same Love and Money Language. It’s a great tool to help every couple who is striving to have a great Money Relationship.
Make it Happen!
Scott & Bethany