We know how it goes. Oftentimes, you don’t even want to talk about finances with your partner during the engagement. You’re totally stressed out and don’t want them to run away. But, having that conversation before the “I Dos” is exactly what will keep you on the same page when you’re married. Money and engagement talks are a MUST.
I (Taylor) am a Spender/Risk Taker – my Money Personalities function comfortably with the assumption, “Oh, it will all work out.” Megan, on the other hand, is a Saver/Security Seeker. Both her Saver and Security Seeker thoughts pop into her head and wonder… “What’s going to happen long-term? I hope we are on the same wavelength about our future!”
Of course, now we see it so clearly because we understand our differences and we have systems to work through it but imagine our marriage if we didn’t.
I know I would be constantly nagging Megan about being such a “stick in the mud”. And Megan would be begging me to, “Stop already with the crazy adventure ideas!” If we spent our days trying to change each other and couldn’t accept the other for who they are, we would be heading down a very miserable path.
We are so grateful to live most days discussing, compromising, and collaborating about our money instead of fighting about it.
Now it’s your turn… Did you talk about money before you were married? Send us a comment… We’d love to hear from you!
Taylor and Megan Kovar