YOU’RE A PARCHED PLANT
At some point, you may have developed some unhealthy financial infidelity habits, whether it’s in the form of faulty money communication patterns or a few “minor” money secrets. What you’re keeping from your spouse is, in turn, keeping you from having those necessary, honest, day-to-day conversations.
Don’t worry—there’s a light at the end of the tunnel! You’re just lacking a bit of extra water to keep your relationship thriving. It shouldn’t take a ton of effort to get out of this rut and into a better position for those financial talks; either way, it’s worth identifying and discussing the differences in your individual Money Personalities to prevent any other bad habits from forming.
Time to get to watering!
IN SHORT, HERE ARE YOUR GROWTH STEPS:
WASH THE ROOTS
LAY FRESH SOIL
STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THERAPY OR CONFERENCES
REPLANT YOUR LOVE
BE HOPEFUL & WORK TOWARD
WINNING WITH YOUR MONEY
LET’S DIG DEEPER AND ESTABLISH NEW GROWTH!
WASH THE ROOTS: IDENTIFY POOR MONEY/RELATIONAL MANAGEMENT
You may not be too far off from a healthy money relationship, but secrets could still be lurking!
In order to shake off any bad seeds or put an end to existing unhealthy patterns, you need to be able to identify them. Look into patterns not only in your relationship, but in your money choices as well.
We’ve learned from experience that if you don’t have an issue talking about challenging or intimate issues in your relationship, you most likely won’t have an issue talking openly and honestly about money.
LAY FRESH SOIL: STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THERAPY OR CONFERENCES
Relational tune-ups are a MUST! It’s important to give your relationship the TLC it needs to keep things running smoothly.
It’s just like having a car: to make sure everything is working properly, tune-ups are due after a certain mileage. These “maintenance checks” can come in the form of marriage conferences, marriage counseling, or Bible studies focused on marriage.
Studies indicate that couples who complete a full therapy journey benefit in more ways than one and show significant improvement in their relationship. Don’t let weird therapy myths stop you from recovering your marriage!
REPLANT YOU LOVE: BE HOPEFUL & WORK TOWARD WINNING YOUR MONEY CHOICES, DAILY
Numerous studies indicate the power of hope in a relationship. Some researchers even suggest that hope is one of the top two to three things that predict the outcome of therapy.
So then—why not have hope and start working together?
There is purpose in hope; it says that believing in something will allow it to come to pass. If you hope for the best, your behaviors start to lend themselves to that reality.
With hope, changed actions, and some basic money skills, the two of you can absolutely win with money in your relationship.