It is our desire to save marriages … lots of them. We can’t believe how many people think—when it comes to money—it is okay to fight, argue, lie and cheat. In other words, commit financial infidelity. Or, for some reason, money is a “hands-off” subject in a relationship. We know that there is a money component in just about every discussion we have.
So how in the world can couples say “we keep our money separate” or “a little lie here or there around money won’t hurt anything.” Are they crazy? It can KILL their relationship.
What is Financial Infidelity?
Financial Infidelity continues to be a topic that is gaining space in our Media these days. You hear how it plays out both in the lives of the rich and famous and in homes like yours and ours. Financial Infidelity is the act of lying, cheating, or hiding money behind your spouse’s back. It has the same effect, for many relationships, as sexual infidelity. It erodes trust—the foundation of any relationship.
The Glass Jar
Imagine a glass jar. Every time you commit financial infidelity (no matter how intentional or how innocent, no matter how much or how little money is involved) it is like adding a handful of rocks to the jar. Every handful crowds out the good stuff that makes a marriage work. Slowly but surely you lose the passion and love in your relationship. You end up with an emotional jar full of rocks!
The good news is that you can overcome financial infidelity. You can stop it right now, then move forward by forgiving each other and then build new patterns in your Money Relationship. It is time for you to take back your relationship and start to empty those rocks!
What’s your relationship worth?
Taylor & Megan Kovar
The Money Couple
Are you willing to share a story of Financial Infidelity to help other couples? It doesn’t have to be big, it happens in even the small things. Leave us a comment and let’s talk!