YOU’RE A WEEPING PLANT
It’s clear that money differences are a major issue in your relationship. You’re lacking the water, sunlight, and nutrients needed for healthy growth!
If we had to guess, you may have had serious money conflict in the past, or even tried to avoid it as much as possible. Either way, you’ve taken a tremendous step in the right direction to identify where your relationship is now, and how to make it better. That’s huge!
IN SHORT, HERE ARE YOUR GROWTH STEPS:
SELECT A NEW POT
LAY FRESH SOIL
OPEN PHONES, ACCOUNTS, &
WASH THE ROOTS
IDENTIFY UNHEALTHY HABITS
REPLANT YOUR LOVE
DEVELOP BOUNDARIES & SEEK FORGIVENSS
LET’S DIG DEEPER AND ESTABLISH NEW GROWTH!
SELECT A NEW POT: START WITH COUPLES THERAPY
While you can’t change the weather, you can change your environment to help repair your relationship. Infidelity of any kind can cause severe strain, and financial infidelity is no exception. Communication is key, but it can be hard to clearly portray exactly how you feel. That’s where a licensed therapist can help!
A good therapist will get to the root of the matter, offering corrective, healthy steps to solve and disarm conflict before it has a chance to start.
Studies indicate that couples who complete a full therapy journey benefit in more ways than one and show significant improvement in their relationship. Don’t let weird therapy myths stop you from recovering your marriage!
LAY FRESH SOIL: OPEN PHONES, ACCOUNTS, & HEARTS
At the heart of most relationship issues lie a troublesome, nasty thing: secrets. Believe it or not, they actually do promote trust—but not in the way you’d think.
When your relationship has become plagued by secrets, you’re more likely to trust that your spouse is ALWAYS lying, rather than trusting that they’ll tell the truth at all!
If you find yourself in this position, it’s time to dig deep, expose the wounds, and lay a new foundation. Start fresh and raw from the very bottom to promote a healthy root system for your relationship.
When we say “dig deep,” do so by opening everything: accounts, phones, hearts, and minds. By no means will this be an easy process, but it will be worth it in the end to have a trust so pure, you won’t have to second guess anything.
(Remember: it’s important to have your heart open to both positive and negative conversation. They should both be for the benefit of your relationship.)
WASH THE ROOTS: IDENTIFY UNHEALTHY HABITS
Break free from the dry, compressed soil, and examine the roots of your relationship for areas of decay.
Pinpoint the source of financial infidelity that allowed other lies to sprout from it. Was it the fast food meals, buying collectibles without telling your spouse, gambling away money you don’t even have, or something deeper?
Consciously keeping certain expenses from your spouse only creates more breeding grounds for weeds to pop up and feed the financial infidelity.
Open, honest communication is key to establishing happy, healthy roots!
REPLANT YOUR LOVE: DEVELOP BOUNDARIES & SEEK FORGIVENESS
Repotting a plant and abandoning it defeats the purpose of replanting. Once your relationship is in a better place, you’re responsible for taking care of it better than you did before!
Opening your heart, admitting your faults, and taking responsibility puts you on the track to healing and forgiveness—just make sure it’s the right kind of forgiveness. Make it genuine, not pacifying. True forgiveness won’t come out of “forgiving and forgetting,” but rather when you stop punishing your partner for the actions that upset you.
Accountability and communication go hand in hand. If you’re struggling with financial infidelity, be open and WELCOME any help from your spouse. Create new boundaries together to keep from falling into the pit again. Break the cycle!