“Wait, you spent how much?!?!” How to avoid Money Personality dumping.
A husband calls his wife the “Money Nazi.” He walks through the door and their conversation goes like this:
Wife: “Where did you go out to lunch?”
Husband: “We went Italian today.”
Wife: “What did you have?”
Husband” “A Chicken Caesar Salad.”
Wife: “How much did it cost?”
Husband: “I don’t know … about $13 dollars.”
Wife: “THIRTEEN DOLLARS FOR A CHICKEN CAESAR SALAD?????”
Instead of calling her a “Money Nazi,” we would describe her Money Personality as a hyper “Saver.” It is so easy to take your Money Personality and DUMP it on the person you love the most. When her husband walked through the door—after a long day at work—is that what he wanted, needed or deserved? If we aren’t intentional with our talk, we can so easily start a fight … and not even know why!
We argue that many fights over money start because our Money Personality is “threatened.” She is a Saver and he is a Flyer. To attack him like that will erode their relationship … one nag at a time.
Be very conscious of your—and your spouses—Money Personality! Also, be aware of the DUMPING you may be doing, and the damage it will cause.
Have you done any “dumping” lately?
Make it Happen,
The Money Couple
Scott and Bethany Palmer