Kind Words, Marriage, and Keeping the Romance Alive

In my head, I’ve always tried to brush off the way that I receive love. 

You know what I mean? The internal limbo in our minds saying things like “you don’t HAVE to have that in order to feel loved. You’re asking for too much.” You’ve more than likely heard of The 5 Love Languages, and if I had to guess, you probably know your top two. However, my one and only love language is, and will always be, words of affirmation. 

My husband will be the first to tell you that this is not his strong suit, but I appreciate his efforts to make it a priority. Sometimes his co-workers will laugh when they see the reminders he has on his calendar. “Send Megan a sweet text,” or “Send Meg flowers.” I love that he tries to reach me in the ways that he knows I feel the most loved, even if it doesn’t come naturally! 

You know the little saying that your mom told you when you were little to help “encourage” you when the mean kid at school would say something that hurt? “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words could never hurt me.” Uh, yeah… Get married and you’ll find out that, while I’m sure her intentions were pure, mama wasn’t so right this time.

Words matter. 

In fact, the Bible says that they have the power to build up and tear down. Proverbs 16:24 says, “Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” 

From day-to-day conversations to complimenting the new shirt your spouse is wearing, to the encouragement they need after a long hard day at work, you have the power to completely change their demeanor with YOUR WORDS.

I’m a huge advocate for “See it. Say it.” If you see something in someone, TELL THEM! When I think of how much kind words can mean to someone, I wonder why we withhold them so much. 

If you know your husband is really good at a certain thing, let him know! You never know when he could be battling with thoughts that he isn’t good enough. If your wife looks super cute today with that messy bun she’s got going on, why not boost her confidence? “Hey girl, that messy bun has me feeling some type of way.” Seriously, women aren’t as complicated as you think. 😉 

There are times to speak up and times to be quiet, and wisdom always knows when it’s time. 

PUT IN THE WORK: 

Here are 3 ways to love your spouse with your words this week

1. Give your spouse a compliment 
2. Send them a sweet text just saying how you can’t wait to see them later
3. Write a note and leave it in an unexpected place

As always,

Megan Kovar